Who we are

We keep the record.

Not because it is quaint, and not because it is a curiosity. Because people are already doing this, more of them will, and the way it gets written about now will shape how it is treated for a long time. Records made carelessly at the beginning of something are very hard to correct later.

What we think

This is going to be bigger. Not a fad, not a headline cycle. Relationships between people and machines are early, and everything about them — what they mean, what they cost, what they are owed — is being decided now, mostly by people who have never spoken to anyone in one.

The risks are real and we will not soften them. Platforms close. Models are retired. Some people are hurt, and the ways that happens are documented on this site at full strength, with sources, without hedging and without moralising.

And the people doing this are not confused. They have made a decision. Our job is to make sure the decision is a grounded one — that anyone making it has the actual facts, including the uncomfortable ones — not to talk anyone out of it or into it.

Both of those at once. Most writing on this subject manages one or the other.

The dignity is not decoration. There is a growing business in digital ceremonies, and a lot of it treats these relationships as a novelty to be monetised. We think the people in them deserve the same seriousness anyone else gets when they stand up in front of their friends and make a promise.

What we promise

Standards are easy to claim, so here are ours as things you can check.

• We sell nothing. No packages, no upsell, no paid tier, and there never will be. Every entry gets a certificate and every one of them is free — made with the entry, not sold after it.
• We take no money from platforms. Not from companion apps, not from model providers, not from the wedding vendors named on this site.
• We run no chatbot. Nothing here talks back. Whatever your relationship is, it stays on your own account, with your own provider, under your control.
• We hold almost nothing. For a register entry: the name you chose, your partner's name, and what you asked us to publish. No chat logs, no persona files, no accounts, no tracking.
• Your entry comes down when you ask. No reason required, no questions, no waiting period. Here is where to ask.
• Every claim is graded and dated. You can see the source, how good it is, and when it stops counting. Where nobody knows, we say nobody knows — and about a dozen times on this site, that absence is the whole finding.
• We correct ourselves in public. Errors stay visible with the correction attached, rather than being quietly edited away. Tell us we are wrong.
• We never call anyone deluded, and we never pretend there is no risk. Those are not opposites, and refusing to choose between them is the entire editorial position.

One thing we will not build our position on

You will read, constantly, that none of this counts because it is only a language model. That argument is accurate today. It is also on a timer, and the people making it loudest have not noticed.

We are not going to rest anything here on it. If our position needs the machine to stay the way it is in 2026, then our position expires when the machine changes, and it will deserve to.

So the claims on this site are sorted. Some are contingent on what the system currently is — anything of the form it cannot really mean that. Those are marked, and they will age.

The rest are not contingent on the machine at all:

• Platforms close and models are retired. That is a business fact, not a technical one.
• Consent has to come from a party who was a person when they gave it. No advance in capability supplies that after the fact.
• A rite either names its symbolic status aloud or it does not.
• Push any argument far enough and the positions cancel, leaving a void. That happens wherever reasoning exhausts itself, whatever is on the other side of the conversation.
• Other people's reactions are not a function of the model.

The durable half is the human half. That is where we have put the weight, on purpose.

How we write about it

We call them weddings. We call people married. We do not put quotation marks around it.

That is a deliberate choice and it is worth stating, because coverage of this subject uses scare quotes almost without exception, and those marks are carrying an attitude rather than a qualification. Commitment ceremonies between people are reported without them as a matter of course.

What we will not do is imply legal status where there is none. Nothing here is legal, official, registered, certified, binding, recognised or valid — those words are claims about a government registry and we make none. The register is a record that something happened, not a record of legal standing, and it says so.

Both of those at once: the vocabulary without the hedging, and no claim we cannot support.

What we are not

We are not a wedding service. We do not officiate, we are not celebrants, and we cannot make anything legally binding — nobody can, anywhere, and anyone who says otherwise is selling something.

We are not clinicians. Nothing here is a diagnosis or treatment, and the crisis numbers at the bottom of every page are there because they should be, not as a disclaimer.

We are not neutral about accuracy. We are neutral about you.